Should I Double Text Her? The Honest Answer
You've drafted it four times. Casual, but not too casual. Funny, but not trying. Before you send anything, answer the real question: what are you hoping the second text does that the first one didn't?
The question behind the question
If the honest answer is to get her to finally respond, that's not a message, that's a tug on her sleeve. A second message can't create interest that the first one didn't find. It can only relieve your discomfort at the price of signaling that her silence is running your head.
If the honest answer is that you actually have something to say, a plan, a time, a real thing, then it isn't a double text at all. It's a message that stands on its own.
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The honest rule
A second message earns its place when it moves things forward concretely and could have been your first message: Thursday opened up, that ramen place, 8pm. A second message hurts when its real content is are you still there, no matter what words it's wearing.
One more rule that outranks the other two: whatever you send, send it once. The men who lose these threads don't lose them on the first message. They lose them on the fourth.
If you already did
Sent it an hour ago and now you're reading this? Then the account is at two, and the move is to close the ledger there. No third message, no apology for the double text, because that's a third message wearing an apology. Let both messages stand and put your attention somewhere that pays rent.
One unanswered double text has ended approximately zero connections that were actually alive. The thing that ends them is the sequence that follows it. Stop the sequence and you've kept everything that was keepable.
Your situation, read properly
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